Do you find it difficult to make commitments? Is it even harder to live up to them? After saying yes to something, do second thoughts plague your mind? Or does the dread of starting new projects or setting personal goals immobilize you?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re probably suffering from commitment paralysis, which is due, in part, to the power our commitments possess. Truthfully, nothing determines your direction and destiny more than the commitments you make. They’ll either define you or they’ll undermine you. Commitment holds the key to future success and experiencing holy moments. It is how we dedicate our direction to the Lord.
The fear of saying yes torments countless people-and it prevents them from discovering God’s best. In The Yes Anxiety: Taming the Fear of Commitment, author Blaine Smith looks closely and compassionately at the struggles Christians have with commitment phobia. He says, “People dislike losing freedom and assuming new obligations; thus, commitment fear is at heart the dread of losing control.”
Assuming that you are in control, is at best, an illusion. Think about it, can you prevent a drunk driver from shattering innocent lives? Can you stop cancer from ravaging the body of someone you love? Consider Job, who thought he had it made- a place for everything and everything in its place. In a matter of days, he lost it all; his business, his family, his health and his reputation. It didn’t take Job long to realize that there was very little he could control. Although God had proclaimed him the most righteous man in all the earth, he was, after all, merely good-not God. Job cried “uncle” when he admitted, “I know that You (God) can do everything, and that no purpose of yours can be withheld from you” (Job 42:2). When Job relinquished control, he was able to commit his life to the One who ruled the universe. As a result, Job’s future was even better than his past. “Now the LORD blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning” (Job 42:12).